Got a call at 10:30pm last night…
Since most everyone knows I wake up at 6am, I panicked and thought it was my family calling to say my grandfather had passed (he has terminal lung cancer and was given 3 months to live in January). Made my husband get up to answer it because I was too scared. Turns out it was my friend who’s getting divorced. So we didn’t answer it.
She called again at 7:30am when I got to my office, and this time I did answer it because I felt sure there must be something wrong.
Nope. Nothing seriously wrong. She just found out that her soon-to-be-ex-husband messaged a friend of hers on Match.com and simply HAD to tell me.
No tears. Very little venting. Just wanted to add to her tally of grievances against her ex. And apparently this necessitated calling me last thing at night and first thing in the morning.
I’m getting kinda tired of “supporting” her because a) She has lots of other friends who aren’t ALSO friends with her ex, b) Every time we hang out she insults other friends of mine, calling one ugly and accusing another of flirting with her ex, and c) I feel like she’s trying to win me over to her “team” in this divorce. We weren’t super close while they were married. Our husbands are close friends. Now suddenly they’re getting divorced and she wants to hang out all the time?
I don’t have a lot of patience for petty bitching. If she was emotionally distraught and despairing I wouldn’t mind being there for her at all hours of the day. But the way she’s acting just feels… manipulative. I need to figure out how to get some distance.